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It's a HARD pill to swallow, admitting that you have been or currently are being a toxic parent 😔 However, when you KNOW better, you DO BETTER🗣🗣 A LOT of our children DO NOT RESPECT US....THEY FEAR and TOLERATE USđŸ€šđŸ€šđŸ€š....with all of our list of demands over THEIR LIVES...That's NOT parenthood....that is a dictatorship‌‌Parents tell their children to strive to be like everyone else but themselves🗣🗣 Dictatorship is keeping #childhoodtrauma and #generationaltrauma alive and dysfunctional....Tell your children that you are proud of them for surviving YOUâ€Œâ€ŒđŸ—ŁđŸ—Ł #growthisaprocess #changestartswithin #toxicpeople #toxicbehavior #toxictraits #toxicparents #dysfunctionalfamily #eachoneteachone #bebetternotbitter #mentalandemotionhealthmatters #mentalhealthawareness #joshuacoleman #whenparentshurt #selfhelpbooks #uglytruths #familysecrets #parenting #parentsofteens #parentsofadultchildren #posttraumaticslavesyndrome #toxicparenting #selfawareness #selfaccountability #selfawareness #wellreadblackgirl #blackbooknerd #sistaswhoread

đ’đ°đąđ©đž âŹ…ïž đŸđšđ« 𝐭𝐡𝐞 đ›đšđšđ€ 𝐹𝐟 𝐭𝐡𝐞 đ°đžđžđ€! 𝘏𝘰𝘾 đ˜”đ˜° đ˜–đ˜·đ˜Šđ˜łđ˜€đ˜°đ˜źđ˜Š 𝘛𝘰đ˜čđ˜Șđ˜€ đ˜—đ˜ąđ˜łđ˜Šđ˜Żđ˜”đ˜Ș𝘯𝘹 𝘣đ˜ș 𝘙đ˜Șđ˜€đ˜Ź đ˜‘đ˜°đ˜©đ˜Żđ˜Žđ˜°đ˜ŻâŁâŁ ⁣⁣ 𝐇𝐹𝐰 𝐭𝐹 𝐛𝐞 𝐚 𝐠𝐹𝐹𝐝 đ©đšđ«đžđ§đ­ 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐧 đČđšđźđ«đŹ 𝐰𝐚𝐬𝐧’𝐭?⁣⁣ 𝘓𝘰𝘰𝘬, 𝐰𝐞 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐀𝐋𝐋 𝐛𝐞 đ›đžđ­đ­đžđ« 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐧 our đ©đšđ«đžđ§đ­đŹ đ°đžđ«đž! ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ 𝐓𝐡𝐱𝐬 𝐝𝐹𝐞𝐬𝐧’𝐭 𝐩𝐞𝐚𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝘾𝘩 đ˜­đ˜°đ˜·đ˜Š đ˜”đ˜©đ˜Šđ˜ź 𝘱𝘯đ˜ș 𝘭𝘩𝘮𝘮. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ đˆđđžđšđ„đąđŹđ­đąđœđšđ„đ„đČ 𝐚𝐬𝐬𝐼𝐩𝐱𝐧𝐠 đČđšđźâ€™đ„đ„ đŹđąđŠđ©đ„đČ “𝐛𝐞 đ›đžđ­đ­đžđ«â€ than them 𝐱𝐬𝐧’𝐭 đ«đžđšđ„đąđŹđ­đąđœ simply because of the way that our brains work.⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ đ’đźđ«đž, when we’re well adjusted, we have full control of ourselves and đ˜Żđ˜°đ˜”đ˜©đ˜Ș𝘯𝘹 đ˜”đ˜° 𝘾𝘰𝘳𝘳đ˜ș đ˜ąđ˜Łđ˜°đ˜¶đ˜”.⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ 𝐁𝐼𝐭 đ©đšđ«đžđ§đ­đąđ§đ  comes with 𝐡𝐞𝐚𝐯đČ 𝐝𝐹𝐬𝐞𝐬 𝐹𝐟 đŹđ„đžđžđ©-đđžđ©đ«đąđŻđšđ­đąđšđ§, đŹđ­đ«đžđŹđŹ 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐀𝐋𝐋 𝐓𝐇𝐀𝐓 đ›đ„đšđ­đšđ§đ­ 𝐃𝐄𝐅𝐈𝐀𝐍𝐂𝐄! ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ You might surprise yourself. I know I did. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ My go-to reaction under stress was đ˜ș𝘩𝘭𝘭đ˜Ș𝘯𝘹. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ 𝘐 𝘳𝘩𝘼𝘩𝘼𝘣𝘩𝘳 đ˜”đ˜©đ˜Š 𝘧đ˜Șđ˜łđ˜Žđ˜” đ˜”đ˜Ș𝘼𝘩 𝘐 đ˜„đ˜Șđ˜„ đ˜Șđ˜”, đ˜”đ˜©đ˜Š 𝘧𝘩𝘱𝘳 đ˜Ș𝘯 𝘼đ˜ș đ˜€đ˜©đ˜Șđ˜­đ˜„â€™đ˜Ž 𝘩đ˜ș𝘩𝘮, đ˜ąđ˜Żđ˜„ đ˜”đ˜©đ˜Š đ˜Șđ˜źđ˜źđ˜Šđ˜„đ˜Șđ˜ąđ˜”đ˜Š đ˜šđ˜¶đ˜Șđ˜­đ˜” đ˜”đ˜©đ˜ąđ˜” đ˜°đ˜·đ˜Šđ˜łđ˜žđ˜©đ˜Šđ˜­đ˜źđ˜Šđ˜„ 𝘼𝘩.⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ 𝐓𝐡𝐱𝐬 𝐰𝐚𝐬𝐧’𝐭 đšđ€đšđČ. 𝘐’𝘼 đ˜Żđ˜°đ˜” 𝘱𝘯 𝘱𝘯𝘹𝘳đ˜ș đ˜±đ˜Šđ˜łđ˜Žđ˜°đ˜Ż, but I was raised partially 𝘣đ˜ș đ˜”đ˜©đ˜Š đ˜źđ˜°đ˜Žđ˜” 𝘱𝘯𝘹𝘳đ˜ș đ˜±đ˜Šđ˜łđ˜Žđ˜°đ˜Ż đ˜â€™đ˜·đ˜Š đ˜Šđ˜·đ˜Šđ˜ł 𝘮𝘩𝘩𝘯. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ Echoes of getting yelled at as a kid đ˜Ș𝘯 đ˜„đ˜°đ˜łđ˜źđ˜ąđ˜Żđ˜€đ˜ș in my mind until one day 𝐁𝐀𝐌! 𝐀𝐧 đźđ§đœđšđ§đ­đ«đšđ„đ„đžđ đ«đžđšđœđ­đąđšđ§. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ 𝐒𝐹 𝐈 đ©đąđœđ€đžđ đźđ© 𝐭𝐡𝐱𝐬 đ›đšđšđ€ 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐰𝐚𝐬 đ«đžđœđšđŠđŠđžđ§đđžđ 𝐛đČ 𝐩đČ đ­đĄđžđ«đšđ©đąđŹđ­.⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ đ˜›đ˜©đ˜Ș𝘮 đ˜Ș𝘮 𝘏𝘈𝘙𝘋. 𝐁𝐼𝐭 𝐱𝐭’𝐬 𝐩đČ đ„đąđŸđžâ€™đŹ đ°đšđ«đ€, and all of this đ˜ąđ˜žđ˜Źđ˜žđ˜ąđ˜łđ˜„đ˜Żđ˜Šđ˜Žđ˜Ž and đ˜„đ˜Șđ˜Žđ˜€đ˜°đ˜źđ˜§đ˜°đ˜łđ˜”. ⁣⁣ #doingthework was worth it! ⁣⁣ đ‹đąđ§đ€ 𝐱𝐧 𝐛𝐱𝐹! This book is worth it! ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ #personaldevelopmentbooks #personaldevelopment #breakthecycle #toxicparenting #respectfulparenting #parenting #gettingbetterwithbooks #booksagram #bookthinkers #booklover #parentingbook #booksagram #nonfictionbooks #nonfictionbookclub #raisinglittleworldchangers #motherhood #motherhoodunplugged #motherhoodthroughinstagram

đŸ’†đŸŸâ€â™€ïž Growing up I remember saying I would never talk to my children how my mother talked to us. I would never lose my temper and I would be the most understanding parent ever. 🙄⁣ ⁣ đŸ€ŠđŸŸâ€â™€ïž Fast forward to being a mom of 4 kids all in elementary school and I find myself constantly losing my shit. ⁣ ⁣ ✹ I’m learning that when I don’t feel in control I yell, I’ve even convinced myself that my kids won’t listen to unless I’m yelling. ⁣ ⁣ ✹ I have a responsibility to my children to teach them better. Which will require me to go against most of what I’ve been taught and shown. ⁣ ⁣ ✹ Everyday I’m learning a better way to do this parenting thing. ⁣ ⁣ ❀ It starts with me. ⁣ ⁣ I love y’all⁣ ——————————————————⁣ Be sure to follow @unapologeticexpressions for more poems and postâ€ïžâŁ #selflove #growth #transformation #lilotoldya #reparentingtherapy #unapologeticexpressions #transparency #therapy #Happiness #motivationalquote #evolving #becomingnew #quotes #lessons #encouragement #selftalk #motivation #love #generaltionalcurses #badhabits #familytrauma #toxicparenting #IGTV ⁣

Yep sure have, left us for dead..... Good thing I'm blessed by the best, have an amazing husband, and am a expert at how to make a dollar out of 15 cents. No bitterness here, my only request is just be as absent as your efforts have been. Don't call making demands for a child you aren't investing in, and that doesn't just go for money, time is an investment too. You can not choose to be a parent when it's convenient for you! These type of parents are usually the first ones at the finish line, when their child is grown, and successful..... wanting to reap all the benefits after the hard part is over. I know/ meet too many women doing it all, while the child's father is fully capable of doing his part (but unwilling to make the sacrifice). The unfortunate thing is we've been made to feel that it's the norm. #whewchile #yeahisaidit #selfishparents #toxicparents #toxicparenting #coparentingwithanarcissist #coparentingimpossible #missionimpossible #abortmission

Traditional Parenting often uses a child's needs and basic human rights as leverage to modify behavior. By withholding love, acceptance, connection and safety a child may comply to a parent’s demands but the cost is a breach of trust. Without trust a relationship is no longer authentic, healthy or secure. . Have you been in an abusive relationship? Do you know somebody who has? Abuse in relationships is rife. It's not surprising given that adult-child relationship is rife with physical and psychological abuse. How often do we hear adults refer to their abuse of power as discipline?! . Intentionally neglecting to fulfill a child's physical or psychological needs in order to modify behavior is not discipline. For as long as adults justify their abuse of power over children by calling it "discipline", "tough love" or "parenting", abuse of power in all relationships will continue. . Statistically, children who are exposed to spanking or verbal abuse are more likely to tolerate or perpetuate physical and verbal abuse. The first and perhaps most difficult hurdle in breaking the cycle of familial abuse is recognizing it. That is what we are doing here individually and collectively. I honor and appreciate you. Healing work breaks cycles. Breaking cycles is healing work. It's all connected, sacred and empowering. @lelia.schott #strengthenedthroughgentleness . . #strengthbasedparenting #breakingthecycle #parentchildrelationship #traditionalparenting #toxicparenting #discipline #positivediscipline #gentleparenting #connectionparenting #consciousparenting #childpsychology #trustbasedrelationships #abusiverelationship #healingfromabuse #consciouslove #connectedrelationships #healingourinnerchild #healingfamily #traumasurvivors #traumaawareness #compassionateparenting #nonviolentboundaries #relationshipmatters #interpersonalneurobiology #plantbasedmama #internationalchildadvocacygroup #southafricanparentcoach #leliaschott #synergygentleparentingresources

YES, this is something that honestly really gets to me. I have already picked up on little things our sweet sensitive Landyn does differently around his bio mom because he doesn't want to make her upset. I hate that he feels like he is under pressure like that because that should be the least of his worries at his age. One day I hope that he will know and feel like he is allowed to love us all freely and completely with out guilt because there truly is enough love to go around!💙 #bonusmom #honest #setfree #love #family #blended #challenges #coparenting #toxicparenting

From a long time I was thinking that how exact I am copy of my mother . We both love every bright colour! How I also pick same style of clothes and how I use bright lipsticks and nailpaints like her. And just like her sometimes I become so negative and having same aspects towards life and get angry at minor things and even bad mouthed. Sometimes I even speak same sentences in same tone!!! . Yes , Just like positive traits we also get negative traits from our parents. THERE ARE SO MANY TO WRITE DOWN HERE. AND THEY ARE VERY PERSONAL. AND YOU IDENTIFY THEM VERY CLEARLY . YOU KNOW THEM! . They can be about body, about marriage, about children, about relationships, , genders, and everything! AND BECAUSE YOU HAVE STAYED ALMOST 18 YEARS WITH THEM ; THEY HAVE DEFINITELY AFFECTED YOU. . So it's the time to RECHECK ,UNLEARN, LEARN AND RELEARN. I am not blaming the parents. Because they have their own life experiences, own traumas and own set of rules to be followed. And they donot had internet and world and thoughts at their fingers. . Just sit with yourself and look deeply inside yourself, evaluate yourself and RECHECK again all your thoughts and UNLEARN all the toxic traits and thoughts which you have learned so far. LEARN all the things and thoughts and RELEARN all which you have forgotten in the name of modernity like talking to yourself . . We are the generation when we are not grew up by parents only but also by internet. We have more access to every sort of knowledge. Use that to open up your brains and guide yourself in a better way. . The purpose of this post is not to hate your parents but be more humble towards them. Their experiences have shaped them but don't let their experiences be your experiences. Create your own bible of your experiences. Your own stories to share and your learnings. . TELL ME IN COMMENTS ONE THING WHICH YOU WANT TO UNLEARN , LEARN AND RELEARN . . For me, I want to UNLEARN the insecurities about my body which I have learned so far. I want to RELEARN that this body is created by god not by me and I want to LEARN every body is is unique creation . . #realtalkwithj #parenting #toxicparenting #learn #unlearn #relearn

When I first started #6thPeriodLunch , I vowed that I wouldn’t talk about celebrities. However, T.I.s comment about going with his daughter to the GYN every year to make sure her hymen is intact HEAVILY disrupted my spirit. Although the over arching topic is T.I.s toxic routine, I made sure to map out the bigger picture and the bigger problem. This episode, unlike the others, does not have a funny aspect at all; we simply have to do better for our girls. ‱ ‱ ‱ #nubianflowerchild #6thperiodlunch #womanofGOD #bodypositive #IGTV #bodypositivity #iamroyalty #bodypositivemovement #selflove #selfcare #plusblogger #plussizeblog #plussize #fatgirlscan #womenempowerment #womenwhoroar #womanist #intersectionalfeminist #explore #thisgirlcanruntheworld #youtubechannel #youtube #podcast #ti #toxicparenting #mybodymyrules

PSA: It isn’t toxic to be caring, loving, confident, strong, assertive or loyal. It isn’t toxic to love your child unconditionally and coddle them when they don’t know how to understand their emotions. It isn’t toxic to protect the people around you, your loved ones, to protect certain relationships and to feel proud of your accomplishments. It doesn’t do anyone any good to sit here and mock masculinity. There are certain elements in your life where love and effect ion need to be made know. Physical infancy in a child is so important to a child’s development and well being. It includes attachment and to resent that part of emotion to your child can’t effect them detrimentally. We all live busy, stressful lives and have endless concerns as parents, but it is clear that one of the most important things we need to do is to stop and give our kids affection to better their happiness throughout life. Affection expressed by parents to their children results in life-long positive outcomes for those children. Higher self-esteem, improved academic performance, better parent-child communication, and fewer psychological and behavior problems have been linked to this type of affection. It’s not and to tech your kids affection let alone let yourself be affectionate. It doesn’t make you any less of a person, it makes you a better parent. #toxicparenting #affection #childrenswellbeing #happiness

That good old, give out the positive vibes and then cut it dead when they think you're hooked is a bait and switch fboy classic. . When you see this behaviour, don't try to figure it out or change it. Just say no . For this tank top, check out the link in bio . #livinwarriorsinfulleffect, sealed with crazy love 💛 . . . . . . . . . . . #selflove #selfcarefirst #casualwearforwomen #toxicparenting #casualwear #toxicrelationships #toxicfreeliving #toxicpeople #womenempoweringwomen #personalempowerment #empoweringwomen #womenpower #emotionalabuse #relationships #toxicrelationships #womenempowering #inspiration #inspirationalquotes #motivationquotes #quotes #cptsdrecovery #selfhealing #healingafterabuse #narcissisticabuse #healing #wellbeing #toxicrelationshiprehab #toxicfriendship

What is “fine?”... Does fine mean ‘functioning’ or ‘healthy functioning’ ?? because there is a difference. Some of us are walking around full of toxins and carrying a shit load of baggage due to our upbringing ..and we don’t think anything is wrong with it cause your circle is just as messed up as you are. There’s nothing wrong with change .. there’s nothing wrong with re-evaluation.. We gotta stop living in this cycle of toxic behavior and justifying it as tradition.. #lifecoachniki #freshstartfriday #toxicparenting #toxicparentingneedstostop #growthmindsetđŸŒ± #growthquotes #parenting

🔮🔂 REACTION: T.I.'s GYN Visits With His Daughter Deyjah To "Check Her Hymen" For Virginity #linkinbiođŸ‘đŸœđŸ—Łâ™»ïžđŸ”” #ericadinerotv #toxicparenting #misogynistparents #hymenmyths #dangersofpatriarchy #womenshealth #virginitymyths #protectblackgirlsandwomen #politeasfuck

Every Monday I listen to the latest @bodyconspodcast. It’s my weekly opportunity to remind myself to love myself whatever I look like or however I feel. And in this particular episode they mentioned @themindgeek and a post about the Mother Wound. I’d never heard of this before. I was in the car and started to cry as @mollyjforbes read out what it means and how it can affect someone. It was such a revelation to me and something I will explore more and discuss here. But for now, these are the points I recognise in myself: ‱I was unable to turn to my Mother for support. ‱She competed with me. ‱She was volatile and emotionally absent. ‱I had to parent my parent. . As a result I: ‱Downplay my achievements and abilities. ‱I am suspicious of others intentions. ‱I am a people pleaser. ‱I feel confused about who I am. . Do you recognise any of these in yourself? How does it make you feel? . ID: White writing on yellow background “Mother Wound”. #TheMotherWound #MotherWound #ParentingThe Parent #LifelongEffects #ToxicParenting #BodyConsPodcast #TheMindGeek #PeoplePleaser #AvoidConflict #NeverFeelGoodEnough #FeelUnbalanced #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #NarcissisticMother #VolatileParenting #MotherlessMothers #HowDoIHeal

By their actions, you get to know them. Anybody can tell you the sweet things you want to hear but deep down, they have venoms awaiting you in their hearts. #toxiclove #toxicrelationshipsandhomes #toxicfriends #toxicparents #toxicparenting #lovelessmarriage #unhappyhome #wordsoftheday #trustissues #actionspeakslouderthanwords

Recent findings from interaction with youth shows peer comparison by their parents leaves them emotional ruined. Who can relate to this 👆 #toxicparents #toxicparenting #parents #ihatemymom #depressionquotes #depressionisreal #suicidegirls #suicideawareness

#beyonddamage #prettyaggressive #toxicparenting #recovery #abuserecovery #womenshealth #mentalhealth #emotionalabuserecovery #thriver #beyondsurvivor #growth #personaldevelopment #evolve #rewireyourbrain #thrive #breakthecycle #daughterdetox #meanmothers #healing #mothersanddaughters #mothers #daughters #family #familylife #womenempowerment #womensuporrtingwomen #selfhelp #elightenedbitches #published #kindle . . Amazon.ca: https://www.amazon.ca/Beyond-Damage-Aggressive-Recovery-Mother-Daughter-ebook/dp/B07ZSZKKLX/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=beyond+damage&qid=1572623542&sr=8-1 Amazon.com: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07ZSZKKLX

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All i be trying to do as a mother. Some days i get it right and others i fail. My kids don’t understand but đŸ€·đŸŸâ€â™€ïž parenting is a hard job. #lifelesson #motherhood #healthyfamily #toxicparenting

If I had a pound for each time I heard this phrase myself growing up
 or have heard it come up again and again in sessions with clients who struggle with self-worth today 
. “I love you but I don’t like you right now” It seems to be a favourite phrase of the ‘unconscious parent/grandparent’ to express their ‘disappointment’ but it is in reality a malignant and manipulative way to destroy a child’s self-worth to shock them into compliance. However, this stuff sticks and can do real damage that then needs undoing by us at a later stage. Self-worth is one of our essential foundations for our emotional and mental #wellbeing in life - without it you are on rocky ground. The ‘Lovability package’ is to help anyone who has grown up with this kind of unconscious parenting which has left them as an adult struggling to connect with other people, feeling deep down that they are unlovable or unlikable, maybe also finding themselves attracting bullies throughout their life. Like/follow/share and please get in touch Much love xx #toxicparenting #selfworth #unconsciousparenting #selflove #healing #mentalhealth #parenting #consciousparenting #motivation #toxicrelationships #evolve #growth #lifequotes #family #meanmothers #breakthecycle #thrive #rewireyourbrain #emotionalabuserecovery #personaldevelopment #abuserecovery #thriver #quoteoftheday #love #abuse #lovability #lovable #rttworks #energygardener

Growing up and observing first hand the narc’s toddler tantrums, triangulation methods, denigration of the other parent and others, a constant stream of partners, is bad enough. Children of narc’s are often spoilt and overly praised for everything they do, or neglected and used as a scapegoat for the narcissist parent. Watching a grown up dodge and break rules then get away with it, setting no boundaries and giving them an overriding sense of superiority, merely sets the children up for chaos further down the line. #narcissisticparent #narcissisticabuse #toxicparenting #scapegoatchild #narcisticpersonalitydisorder #npd #nocontact #triangulation #creatingchaos #crazymaking #youcantcoparentwithanarcisist #absenteeparents #parentingbyremote #traumarecovery #survivinganarc #complicity #truecrime #fraudsters #grifters #kidsofnarcissistparents #parentalalienation #rolemodels #toxicparents #rulebreakers #bendingtherules #badrolemodel #divorcinganarcissist #flyingmonkeys #coverup #perjuryisacrime

|PT|EN| "JĂĄ ouviram falar em "Pais Curling""? É uma expressĂŁo curiosa, que nunca tinha ouvido. Mas depois de ler este artigo escrito pelo JosĂ© Fidalgo, o conceito Ă© conhecido, Ă© aquilo vemos no nosso dia-a-dia, mas agora tem um nome! Achei este artigo interessantĂ­ssimo e convido a todos a ler. Nos dias de hoje, os pais tentam demasiado em fazer as coisas bem, que acabam por errar na educação. Como psicĂłloga, vejo tantos pais a proteger os filhos em demasia....a defendĂȘ-los mesmo quando nĂŁo tĂȘm razĂŁo....a aceitarem o comportamento desafiante como se nada fosse...a alimentarem as birras e as teimosias...SerĂĄ isto uma boa parentalidade? DarĂĄ isto origem a adultos seguros e confiantes? NĂŁo me parece... SerĂĄ que ao resolvermos os problemas por eles, ao eliminarmos os obstĂĄculos que eles tĂȘm que enfrentar, estaremos a ser bons pais? A meu ver, e como podemos ler no artigo, estamos a criar crianças que vĂŁo ter problemas de ansiedade, que terĂŁo pouca tolerĂąncia Ă  frustração, que irĂŁo ser emocionalmente frĂĄgeis Ă  primeira dificuldade ... Os pais, na maioria das vezes nĂŁo tĂȘm noção desta "parentalidade tĂłxica".E Agora? Que fazemos? Um dia de cada vez. Um passo de cada vez. Lembrar sempre que nĂłs nĂŁo somos os melhores amigos dos nossos filhos, somos sim o Porto Seguro deles! Temos que ser o equilĂ­brio deles!NĂŁo hiper protege los mas tambĂ©m proteger quando necessĂĄrio. NĂŁo lhes dar sempre a razĂŁo, mas o mesmo tempo,ouvi -los com atenção, nĂŁo sĂł o que dizem mas tambĂ©m como se comportam. Quem disse que ser Pai ou MĂŁe Ă© fĂĄcil?? É um trabalho 24 horas,7 dias por semana,para a vida toda!! E, com todo gosto! Com as coisas boas, com as coisas mĂĄs Ă  mistura! Mas a vida Ă© mesmo isso! Uma mistura de emoçÔes, de comportamentos, de reacçÔes! Como diz Fidalgo, somos "um work in progress" Obrigada JosĂ© Fidalgo (@josefidalgo_oficial) por este artigo e por me fazer repensar na parentalidade quer como mĂŁe quer como psicĂłloga 🙏🙏🙏 ❣ ❣ |EN| read in Comments please #flipflop40s #parentalidade #cronicasdofidalgo #paiscurling #portoseguro #pais #josefidalgo #johnmarsden #parentalidadetoxica #parenting #safeharbor #curlingparents #parents #beingaparent #toxicparenting @josefidalgo_oficial

I was just blooming into the lovely stage of puberty when my mom slapped me as she caught me talking to a boy. At the age of 16, I was finally allowed to travel alone to my tuition which is barely 200-300 meters away from my place. One day, my batch mate accompanied me back as his place was nearby. After that day the sky fell. I’m 22, studying BA against my wishes and I’m still accompanied to wherever I go. Hi, I’m X and this the story of my conservative family. I’ve zero liberty and privacy. I was raised in an all-girls school followed by an all-girls college. I used to have tuitions with only girls and zero contact with any boy in the last 17 years of my existence. My dad used to beat me with a belt at the age of 17 as I told mom that I liked a girl from my school. Hi, I’m X and this is the story of my conservative family. I’m married to a man whom I don’t even know and I’ve zero sexual feelings for my husband. This is ‘that’ time of the month and I am not allowed inside the temple place of my own home. I still whisper into my mother’s ears for a ‘Whisper’, irony is that even the name itself is stereotyped. The shopkeeper still sells me pads in a paper or a black polythene bag. Is it so dark to accept? He gives me as if it is drugs. Hi, I’m X and I’m 21 but I still don’t dry my inner garments out in the open. At home I hang them inside my ‘normal’ clothes. I was beaten up again. Both at the boxing gym and then by my father. My mother cusses me by calling me a ‘hijra’. Yes, I bleed every day in the ring where I’m pushed to fight to determine my muscularity. I was beaten till I went numb and unconscious because I cried on the first day of boxing. Hi, I’m X and this is the story of my conservative family. I’ve tattooed ‘hijra’ in the dark corners of my heart. Continued in comments ♄

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⚠ Lets talk⚠ After the dissolve of a relationship that involves children, it is always ideal to try and work out a parenting arrangement amongst yourselves vs going to court. Because ultimately what’s best for the child(ren) is a positive relationship with two healthy parents...even if they’re not together. Unfortunately, in some situations, that is not always the case and a third party is brought in to oversee negotiations for “the child’s best interests”. BUT in a lot of cases, court has been weaponized by high conflict bio moms as a tool for punishment for their child’s father. Knowing that fathers usually get the shortest end of the stick. And by the 3rd or 4th time in court, most are mentally exhausted because there is no resolve to the never ending dramatics. When the judges decide to recognize frivolous cases for what they are; leaving room on their dockets for the parents who legitimately need the guidance and legal assistance, and award these fathers with 1ïžâƒŁ more time-sharing, 2ïžâƒŁ more influence in decision making, and 3ïžâƒŁ his attorney fees paid for by the petitioner, AS WELL AS court ordered therapy for the one with the constant issues with the order ...then we will see a change in the frequency of court visits by the same people. Many HCBMs would much rather go to court than to therapy because it’s easier to play the victim to a judge than to a therapist. None of which is in the best interest of the child. Her personal issues are not the child’s issues. Not being able to move on is not the child’s problem NOR the child’s father’s. Those issues should be resolved in a therapist’s office; not a courtroom. #jadeferrahwrites #jadetalk #jadesays #healthyparentsforhealthychildren #therapyvscourt #fatherhood #fightingtofather #fathersrights #equalparenting #sharedparenting #coparenting #parallelparenting #blendedfamilies #blackandblended #healingjourney #hcbm #toxicparenting #letstalkaboutit

I had court last week. It was only a judicially hosted mediation, but it scarred me like everything else has during my 3 year long battle to settle custody with my ex-husband. Even though I have hundreds of documents to prove my case, the mediating judge moved the goal post when he said “I’m sorry to tell you this, I believe you, but he will do better on the stand and if you go to trial, you will have issues.” đŸ–€ He will do better on the stand. Of course he will. That’s why we are divorced. The mask, the fake life, the lies... that’s what drove me away in the first place. đŸ–€ And with those words, the pain of all that I’ve lost, all the people who believed his lies, the look in my children’s eyes that I catch ever so often where I know they are wondering if mommy really is the monster daddy says she is, it all came back to me. đŸ–€ In that one sentence the last 3 years of my life came crashing to a halt. I felt the tears sting my eyes but I couldn’t feel my voice. Once again, the bravery I’d worked so hard on, retreated back down to the depth of my soul and I could only muster “it isn’t fair” as I looked at my hands in my lap. 💔

If you are now dealing with TOXIC PARENTS in you life or you have in the past, today's video is especially for you đŸ™đŸ™‡â€â™‚ïžđŸ™ #toxicparents #toxicparenting #dysfunctionalfamily #dysfunctional #motivation #positivity #spiritual

⚠Trigger Post ⚠ “Baby mama drama” is a phrase we all know well and is often dismissed following a trail of jokes and tall tales. But we don’t truly realize how heavy the toxic parenting of a narcissistic mother can weigh on a child who only wants to love and receive love from their father’s side. Generally, mothers are the primary custodians so they’re able to inflict manipulative tactics such as guilting and alienation in large doses. Guilting the child for forming an attachment to their father’s significant other. Continuously questioning the child in an interrogative manner after they’ve returned from their dad’s home. Manipulating them into keeping monumental moments in their lives a secret as an attempt to alienate dad from participating. It is not fair to further taint the childhood of one who is already adjusting to living and loving between two households. It is narcissistic to think that they can not find happiness where you are not present. It is truly unfortunate when a mother’s lack of accountability to the demise of “what once was”, causes her to be upset when the child has found balance within their father’s home, rather than be at peace knowing that there is a place where he/she is equally safe and loved. These children are smart and perceptive. They are also intuitive. And when they feel safe...they speak freely. (Pause for effect) Don’t raise your children to resent you because you have chosen not to resolve your personal issues but rather to project them.. onto them..INTO them. While you may not be at a place in your life to receive this, the message is still important. So.....With love I write that to say this...Get help sis ...........or your children will continue to suffer emotionally at your hand. The emotional and mental welfare of our children is just as important as the physical. Animosity, resentment, regret is heavy. Just put it down đŸ–€ #jadeferrahwrites #jadetalk #jadesays #therapyhelps #toxicparenting #toxicmothers #fathersrights #fatherhood #fightingtofather #blendedfamilies #bonuschildren #bonusmomlife #theshowgoeson #parallelparenting #emotionalhealing #dramafreehousehold #message #blackandblended

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From checking all your texts to sticking their ears to the door when you talk on phone - brown parents (even relatives and acquaintances) are pros at invading your privacy. 💁 #brownparents #asianparents #indianparents #thatwokeladki #toxicparenting #helicopterparents #invasionofprivacy

To believe you are lovable and worthy you must first experience these experiences from the outside world. When we grow up in homes that reflect a sense of value towards us then we feel valued and believe on a soul level that we are valuable. We become adults that value our wants, needs, and desires. We naturally value others as well. When the opposite is true, and we have not had the experience of being loved, we do not know how to love the self. When we learn to believe we are enough, and all the internal garbage we hear that is related to NOT loving the self is an illusion, because we have always been enough, it is then our codependent and insecure ways begin to dissolve and our awareness of higher self can take over. Your best friend should always be the self. Make friends with every aspect of you. This is the way.

Traditional Parenting often uses a child's needs and basic human rights as leverage to modify behavior. By withholding love, acceptance, connection and safety a child may comply to a parent’s demands but the cost is a breach of trust. Without trust a relationship is no longer authentic, healthy or secure. . Have you been in an abusive relationship? Do you know somebody who has? Abuse in relationships is rife. It's not surprising given that adult-child relationship is rife with physical and psychological abuse. How often do we hear adults refer to their abuse of power as discipline?! . Intentionally neglecting to fulfill a child's physical or psychological needs in order to modify behavior is not discipline. For as long as adults justify their abuse of power over children by calling it "discipline", "tough love" or "parenting", abuse of power in all relationships will continue. . Statistically, children who are exposed to spanking or verbal abuse are more likely to tolerate or perpetuate physical and verbal abuse. The first and perhaps most difficult hurdle in breaking the cycle of familial abuse is recognizing it. That is what we are doing here individually and collectively. I honor and appreciate you. Healing work breaks cycles. Breaking cycles is healing work. It's all connected, sacred and empowering. @lelia.schott #strengthenedthroughgentleness . . #strengthbasedparenting #breakingthecycle #parentchildrelationship #traditionalparenting #toxicparenting #discipline #positivediscipline #gentleparenting #connectionparenting #consciousparenting #childpsychology #trustbasedrelationships #abusiverelationship #healingfromabuse #consciouslove #connectedrelationships #healingourinnerchild #healingfamily #traumasurvivors #traumaawareness #compassionateparenting #nonviolentboundaries #relationshipmatters #interpersonalneurobiology #plantbasedmama #internationalchildadvocacygroup #southafricanparentcoach #leliaschott #synergygentleparentingresources

Have you ever been in a toxic relationship? These unhealthy relationships can be with a colleague, friend, partner, sibling and even children/parents. These cause us to feel all levels of shitty about yourselves and the relationship. â˜Łïž * * What are the signs? What causes this to happen? What if I am the one causing it? How do I get help? Is it always intentional? > < In this first live session, we will discuss questions on all kinds of relationships. Please join us with your thoughts and questions on my profile tomorrow 12:30 pm Canada time ET / 9:30 pm Pak time. Help spread the word, invite friends to the discussion & tag your people. * Also, put your questions in the comments below as well as bring them to us tomorrow. đŸ‘‡đŸŒ > P.s: If you can’t make it at the time, the session will be on my feed for 24 hours. ⏱ * ____ #ajjusays #munkimuntaq #karachisaykanada #adultingaiksoaik #therapistsofinstagram #instagood #lifetips #toxicrelationships #toxicparenting #toxicity #therapy #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealth #mentalhealthrecovery

Do you also get scolded just for being politically aware? | @whatresistancelookslike has some suggestions for such parents. . . . . . . . . . . #toxicparenting #mentalhealth #blacklivesmatter #studentactivism #studentprotest #JNU #jnuprotest #brahminicalpatriarchy #climatechange #indianpolitics #2019elections #loksabhaelections

Some effects of Parentification results in low-self esteem, codependency, the inability to trust themselves and need for approval. Dear parents & parents of the future, please remember to give your children a childhood they don’t have to recover from - it’s easier to build strong children than it is to repair a broken adult. - #Parentification #Codependency #codependentnomore #narcissist #npd #codependent #codependencyrecovery #Childhood #Healing #Counselling #Recovery #traumabonding #trauma #traumainformed #Coaching #lifecoach #traumainformed #Abuse #neglected #Relationships #toxicparenting #TheHealingProject #Winnipeg #WinnipegManitoba

On a very honest note, abusive relationships can teach you quite a lot but don't ever for a second think that this is a room for you to grow wiser. Because. It. Destroys. You. Period.

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